Shavonne:
I know that being a plus size woman in this world can be challenging at times, but that’s why its important to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. My simplest advice for any plus size person is just to embrace who you are, love who you are. The energy that you put out is the same energy that you will get back. If your always down about yourself and fell that your not good enough, or pretty enough others will sense that and react off the energy you put out. If you’re a size 22, be a fly 22, don’t try to be a size 8. Showcase your attributes, if you have nice legs or good arms, or a nice rack show it off and don’t worry aboutwhat’s not perfect because perfect doesn’t exist. So too all my big girls out there don’t be afraidto be F-ly, A-ttractive, and T-rendsetting, I am and I’m loving it.
Chocolate:
It's so easy to let someone tear your confidence down and even harder to get back up. You can get up. You can be the queen. As you go through life you will find big girl haters or big girl lovers nevertheless you are you a beautiful queen who can wake up like a ray of sunshine and brighten any one's day.
Latasha:
If you are struggling with loving you, let me tell you this: (1)No one can beat you being you! It is possible that you may see a woman who looks like you, sounds like and may even walk like you…but they are not Y-O-U! (2) No one’s DNA has the exact combination that you do, therefore you must be excited about who you are! You are a unique design, therefore unable to be replicated and invaluable! (3) Only you can do what you are here to do! If you don’t do it, it just won’t get done.
Caroline:
Ever since I was a baby, everything about me has been BIG! My height, weight, and my personality. Growing up, I never let my weight hold me back. I was a hip-hop dancer, cheerleader, and I play water polo. Along with athletics I am also in theater, choir, and fashion design and construction. Fashion definitely helped me learn to love my body. One of my favorite things about being plus size is finding that outfit, and that perfect pair of shoes, and knowing just what to do with my makeup… and have it all come together and it makes me feel absolutely beautiful. It's that feeling that made me realize that is doesn’t matter if you’re a size two or a size twenty-two, you are beautiful, and every woman deserves to feel the same way I do.
Ieisha:
Fast forward to the future thanking people like Monique who made I feel it was okay to love who I am and what god gave me. As I stated this was no easy road. First I had to get real with myself I couldn't expect someone to love me if I didn't. How did I start to do that? By taking stock of what I loved about me and what I didn't what I could change and what I had to accept. Working out gave me some control about how I looked and how I saw myself.
Let me tell you, pumpkin butt, the only way to celebrate your glorious poundage in proper form is to wear clothing that makes you feel like the va-va-va-voom that you are, and find a lover who thinks that every inch of you should be bronzed and put on display.
Sometimes, my little butter blossom, you have to take life by the love-handles and create change. Sometimes it's necessary to step out of that teeny tiny box that the media creates and find out there are people who think that a size 20 ass, a corset and a pair of fishnets is a damn good time. Add that to the list: You are a damn good time. Know what your strengths are and own them, because nothing says fantabulous like confidence and self-knowledge.
Sophia P:
I have come to the point in my life where I longer look at the scale, but how I feel physically. I no longer resent or hate my body. I can stand in front of a mirror and appreciate my curves, and my body’s strength. I have made a promise to my body that I will no longer take it for granted or abuse it (no matter what size). I exercise 4-5 times a week, and make healthy and reasonable choices when it comes to food. My body is comfortable and healthy as a size 18, and thanks to Re/Dress my diva fashion sense can be expressed as well. And on those days where I feel less than what I should, I remember what an admirer yelled at me from across the street from my office building: “Work what yo’ mama gave you beautiful. Sashay them curves girl”.
Dannielle:
Deal with your own life, size doesn't matter, except to u someone who has no concept of what i've been through. im smarter than you on my worst day, drop all that hatred and come play with me.
Lauren:
I am a big, beautiful girl. I have struggled to deal with my body and self-esteem issues since what seems like an eternity, but that single statement signifies my triumph; I have come out on top in my internal battle.
Sophia:
To show love to the body you have is a spiritual act and a vital one for the general upkeep of our souls. One of my rituals is to find one thing every day that I like about my body. Some days it's easy to love my breasts, my dimpled thighs, my stretch marks, my big brown "cow eyes". Other days, burdened by the worries of the day, I have to cling to whatever I can find: an ear, a finger, one nipple to be happy about. Better to hang on to that one thing, no matter how minute, than to let the body hating demons get into our souls.
Jen:
My 3 words of advice? Get OUT of the mirror, get INTO your fat community, and don't fear your 'number.' No matter what size you are, let your clothes work for YOU--don't work for your clothes!
Timia:
I don’t think its enough of us representing and i want to show the world that you can be any size and love yourself. I have been “chubby” my whole life and growing up I was teased and sometimes humiliated because of my weight. One day, while in high school, I realized my weight isn’t a curse to me, but it is apart of me. No matter who said what about me and even if what they’ve said may have hurt, it never forced me to starve myself or go on some bogus diet, but it made my skin thicker and made me feel like I stood out. I believe I am a beautiful female inside and out. I want young women my age to walk in a store and feel stylish and confident about what they put on. I want them to open a magazine and see a female who has the curves they have and for them to appreciate what they have. I want the whole world to see true beauty for what it is not what Adobe Photoshop wants it to look like.
Ashley:
Three things I would say to someone struggling with self-love; Don't harp on the things you don't like aobut yourself, pick something you like and play it up! The more you focus on the negative, the more your lose sight of the positives. Don't let the good-old Big girls can't do insert-something-here stop you! I ride horses, a decidedly skinny-girl sport, and I never let my size hold me back from loving it and being good at it! Don't just exercise because you might be trying to lose weight, be active because it makes you feel good and proud of yourself no matter what size you are!
Carolyne:
In regards to mentoring others who have low or no self-love, being heavy is a very personal and hard to deal with. As much as I love my body there are days where I am not happy with it but all I do is look in the mirror and tell myself I am a great person who is loved and has a lot going for myself. This works for me but may not much for others. I have a cousin who is 15 years old, is heavy, and comes to me for advice because I am heavy. When she feels down, I tell her the only person who could love you more than your mother and father is yourself. Also keeping a journal is comforting, it helps to write when you are happy or sad with yourself, that way when the sad days come along you have the proof written down that you do have good days. My third recommendation for self-love is to not care what others think. You are your own person and no one can take that from you. Be who you are, dress how you feel comfortable, just be you!
Teshieka:
I love my body because if I don’t love it, who will. I have a 6 year old diva named Brooklyn and I refuse to let her feel that she is inadequate because she isn’t the size of most of her classmates. I will teach her self-love because there are going to be people who will try to make her feel bad about how she looks and I do not want her to have to grow up with the same feelings I harbored. I tell her she is beautiful everyday.
If I were to talk to a woman who is struggling with self love, I would tell her to: 1) embrace her self. You have to love yourself before you can give love to others and for others to love you back. 2) If the way you feel about yourself is because of things people have said to you, let it go! Do you! 3) The feelings that you hold inside project outward. Hold your head high, stand up straight and strut your stuff, Mama!
Robin:
The three things I would say to someone about self love are beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Secondly find your own style and make it your own where it with pride and confidence. Last but not least, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and everyone is uniquely made and beautiful in the eyes of God.
Emily:
Display your true self to everyone in both your personality and the way you dress. Your ideas and opinions are what make you who you are. If you are open and honest, people will appreciate you whether they agree with you or not. Go after your dreams and never doubt yourself. After all, taking chances is what life is all about. Ultimately, you are the one that can make yourself truly happy.
Anna:
What I love about my body is that it's my calling card. Would I be the same person I am if I didn't have this killer rack? Would I have the same kind of outlook on life is my ass wasn't so big? Probably not. And you know what? I like the person I am and my outlook on life, and I like my killer rack and my big ass. (And all the great clothes I can put on said ass.) And to those ladies who need a little positive push to love themselves, I say this:
- Surround yourself with other amazing women. My friends are not gripers, not backstabbers, not backhanded‐compliment‐givers. We all truly admire each other, and we show it.
- You cannot be anyone but yourself. It’s impossible! So focus on being the best you you can be, and don’t worry about being someone you’re not.
- Have fun, no matter what you do. You cannot help but love yourself when you bring a party everywhere you go!
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